Coz they will do nothing else in their life that will amount to anything, this is the defining moment and the only ‘big’ moment in their inconsequential lives

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guys behave as if Ranbir Kapoor ki shaadi ho rhj hai and girls behave as if Deepika Padukone ki shaadi ho rhi hai.   Lot of them also give wedding as a reason to why they should be promoted or give...

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guys behave as if Ranbir Kapoor ki shaadi ho rhj hai and girls behave as if Deepika Padukone ki shaadi ho rhi hai. 

Lot of them also give wedding as a reason to why they should be promoted or given and not the work that they have delivered. they start irritating their colleagues too - entire episode is quite comical.

Why do colleagues start behaving wierdly as soon as their wedding gets fixed?

Software Engineer

Why do colleagues start behaving wierdly as soon as their wedding gets fixed?- Grapevine

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Before I start my ranting, I am happy for Anant getting married and having the fun of his life. I hope and pray for him to have a happy life. 

I have the following concerns 
1. Excessive media and PR coverage all events 
2. Deliberate flooding of content trying to set narratives for Anant’s generosity in building a zoo in a geographically irrelevant area and abusing animals by putting them in a zoo with adverse climate 
3. Excessive wedding events including Rihanna, beiber etc which could have a been private events 

This just makes me wonder, if this is the beginning of the fall of Mukesh Ambani. In south India, showing off wealth in a very abrasive public manner is considered to bring ill will and downfall. 

I wonder why the wedding couldn’t have been a private event for all their invitees. I don’t intend to morally police or demean their celebrations. 

Anyways, maybe I’m just too poor to comprehend the richest man of India.

Anant Ambani Wedding extravaganza!

The more I attend Indian fat weddings, The more convinced I am to do a court marriage.

Indian fat wedding

Product Manager

29,M. I am planning to get married this year. My parents have not accumulated much money, plus i don't want to burden them with the expenses of my marriage, hence I will be sponsoring the marriage on my own. Same is the case for my partner, and we will split all expenses equally.

Now, here comes the twist, our parents wish to retain the "izzat" that they have in the society and want to do a big wedding. The budget that I have been told is minimum 20L. Tbh, I don't want to spend this much. I was looking for something ~ 5L.

People on grapevine, especially the members who married recently, what do you think is a decent budget for marriage. Additionally, could you help out in some money saving hacks.

Budget for marriage

Guys suggesting court marriage, please read the OPs question again. He isn't confused between court marriage or a grand wedding. He wants to understand what the budget should be.  
  
 Groom side expenses 
 Clothing: 70k 
 Jewellery gifted to girl: 2~3L 
 Return gifts (Usually sweets): 1L 
 Stay for guests (30rooms, 2 days): 1.5L 
  
 Bride side expenses  
 Clothing: 1.5L 
 Gifts to guy: 2L 
 Jewellery: 3L 
 Makeup: 30k 
 Return gifts: 1L 
 Stay( Same as groom): 1.5L 
  
 Common expenses 
 Photography (2 days): 3L 
 Venue + Food (2 days): 6~8L (Per plate ranges between 1k to 2.5k in tier cities) 
 Parents shopping: 4L (2L per side) 
  
 Total expense= ~30L for both sides. Now you can decide what to cut and what to spend on.

Crazy story of a friend's friend
School best friends had jokingly committed to the idea - if we don't find someone, we'll marry each other

Both dated around, got hearts broken (broke some hearts)
10 years later, they are together and marrying in second half of the year.

Funny thing, both are 25yo

25yo marrying friend of 10+ years

I am working hard on my myself
Gym study work sleep
Make sure everything is completed on time
So that the schedule doesn't mess up

But Why?
I get a feeling of someone I need
To tell everything how my day went
Bhai PTA hai mai ugly hoon
Theek hai
Par yar ek limit hoti hai in thoughts k

In my WorkSpace I make sure to keep professional bonds with my team

Ghar aata hoon to 
Kayi bar phone ko dekhta hoon
Na h koi call
Message

Bus office wala phone h hai Jo phone lagta hai
PTA nhi ye sab kyu ho rha mere sath
Akele marna likha hai 
Phir bhi dimaag ghumta h hai
Dhere Dhere confidence peace self esteem
Mar rahe hai
These thoughts are winning

.....
Mere Ghar par koi nhi hai
Na h Bhai behen
1 dost hai wo busy rehta

Kayi bar marne ka bhi man karta
I close my eyes and cry sometimes
Ek normal routine wala Banda is had tak emotionally har chuka hai
Kya pap kiya hoga maine

It's lonely, Ain't it?

Saw a couple of posts on X claiming (read boasting) India’s divorce rate as 1%. If we believe this to be true, I think this is majorly because of the show-off nature of the society. Almost every marriage I’ve known about in last 5 years has loads of adjustments on the girl’s end. Things might be looking so good on out (instagram pics of holiday, social validation of money and wealth) but scratching the surface yields another story. There are issues with in-laws, random expectations for girl and her family, dowry (“gifts”) and what not. Even the best folks (guy) I know in corporate give in to this culture silently in the name of not going against their family. Would like to hear thoughts on this. Are there stories of mid-age/new couples worth considering ideal?

Indian Marriages

I will go first, it doesn't matter if you really work hard on a project, in the end only result matter, no matter how much efforts you made for it

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Software Developer

A friend of mine was dating a girl, convinced his parents to offer marriage. But girl chickened out last minute, married one her father had chosen. This really fucked him up, he was determined to get married anyhow, whom didn't matter. 
1 Yr later, found a girl parents found, got pregnant before first anniversary. Over 3 years, their marriage has seen divorce, domestic violence and 5 star hotel celebrations (oscillated to extremes of good and bad)

I'm seeing another such case.
Office colleagues were dating, he proposed marriage, she declined. He said stuff that shouldn't have been said, she threatened POSH (did not complain officially)
2 months later, he has found someone to marry through arrange marriage route 

Break ups are bad, but half of the problem were you. Instead of working on that, people take it on ego

Rebound marriages are the worst

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Will this happen in India too? Are you folks still planning to have kids?

This is a very interesting topic. I wonder what the impact will be on so many things. 
- People get married later, have kids much much later 
- Effectively you're getting fewer of your "fitter" years with your kid (although lifetime is elongated too) 
- We've added at least 5 years of working as a single guy/gal to our lifetimes. 

Question to the broader community: I don't see most people between 25 to 30 being super happy. Most people actually seem misguided (me/my friends - in some ways). Is this pattern actually harmful for us?

Analyst

Thoughts on this

A friend just got married and he didn't invite anyone from his current employer.

I am just wondering if such a decision can negatively impact one's relationship with their employer

Did you / Will you invite your boss for your wedding?

Business Analyst

If someone is constantly checking upon you, they must have some kind of expectation from you. Right?

If people ask about you n number of times, does that mean they have any expectations from you?

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New Job vs. New Career: How to Decide ?
I am currently working at Accenture and planning to switch companies. However, given the current market conditions, I'm worried about whether I can secure a new job. I have two options:

1. Get a job offer by next month using my SQL or Oracle skills. My notice period will then end in August or September. However, I need time off in December for my wedding. Will the new company allow me to take leave just 2-3 months after joining?

2. Study for a career in Data Engineering, switch careers, and get a job offer in November or December. I would then get married during my notice period.

What should I do?

Switching Jobs Before Your Wedding: Is It the Right Move?

So I am living the meme by having my wedding and WC cricket match on the same day. 

Planning to setup a watch party at the wedding hall to cater to the friends and family members can enjoy the game.

Can anyone guide me through a simple screen setup? Planning to livestream the match onto it,

Wedding and WC cricket match on the same day

Engineering Manager

What's the stupidest reason you've heard someone got married for?

1. shaadi ke baad yeh ladka sahi ho jayega and gussa kam karega  
 2. settle ho jaoge life mein 
 3. 30 ke baad ladka/ladki nhi milegi. 
 4. ex se move on karne ka yehi best way hai 
 5. physical need 
 6. ghar ka khana

External Audit

Women of GV, what are the sexist rituals in your wedding that you don't want to do / didn't do?

Guys, please get married and save yourselves!

Alright everybody, let's have fun, choose your warrior 🤵🏻

She hasn’t seen the CTC Megathreads in grapevine yet. All these guys will get dumped.

Founder

Grapeviners, can you, with all honesty convince a non-believer like me into getting married and having children. If you do, my parents will send a million blessings your way. 

About me: 
- Female, 28
- mostly introverted, very selectively extroverted
- single and normally attractive
- Jinxed when it comes to relationships
- Financially independent, Net worth: 1 cr
- not bragging, but I'm decently intellectual and I can have smart conversations

My reason to resist marriage is: I'm scared it won't work out and will cause bigger problems than being single. Have seen too many unhappy marriages in family and friends. Dating scenes in recent times have only made things even more unimpressive.

Convince me to get married

After a few failed relationships, I had an arranged marriage (at that time, it was just to fulfill what my parents wanted). She was a very conventional girl,, never had any relationship before. I was scared going into the marriage too. 
  
 5 years later, she is the best thing that has happened to me. She helped me explore things I never would have. She gave my life a different perspective. 
  
 I'm not saying just because it happened to me, it could happen to you too. I'm saying unless you take the leap you'll never know what you're missing out on.

So i’ve been Noticing her for 1.5 months now.. she notices back like hell.. she is Indian from south.. im from NCR ..working in HYD.. she’s kinda cute.. spiritual, all Green flags.. but i don’t want to take risk as she is senior 1 year.. one wrong step can ruin things.. now I’m trying to not think about her.. but she’s stuck in my mind like nothing else.. seeking help.. any suggestions to get out of this !!

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